Saturday, December 29, 2007


This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here....
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage....


During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you.

You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . Not just a feeling.

Remember this always

"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go."

Monday, December 24, 2007

What is Right? What is Easy? - Albus Dumbledore


I was watching Harry Potter - Goblet of Fire the other night and caught Albus Dumbledore saying to Harry Potter, "Soon, we will have to find what is right and what is easy?".

I believe, that in real life... we always have questions!

Be it easy ones or hard ones, we always try to look for the right answer! RIGHT? Ya... right!

Hmmm... ntah pesal today i merepek-repek ni!

Ok... since Friday last week there's a problem nationwide with the Maxis broadband so let's recap what happened on Friday and Saturday!

Little Guapo playing with kasut sport Paksu dia!

Last Friday night, when we stepped in Angsa Bar, we were surprised to see a Santa Claus with 2 green Santarina. They were from Carlsberg and we were right on time before they started a few games for the crowd. Luckily there's only 2 tables occupied that time. So all the staffs yg sibuk (including me!) joining the games! Senang jer. So i got 1 Carlsberg lighter. Hehehe...

Staff-staff Angsa Bar yg noti-noti sumer! L-R : Ina, Julia, Zura & Carol (pakai panty stripe grey wif ribbons!!!) Muahahaha... proudly showing to people pulak tu!

Then on Saturday night, we had corporate dinner function at Sheraton Subang. Well organized and we finished at 11:15pm. After the function, we walked to Lake View Club to check out the place we're going to work starting January 1st, 2008. The place... hmmm... ok lar. Just for 1 month. Then we checked out Holiday Villa plak. Mak ai, ramai nyer orang. And i saw the ex-staff Hazami. And suddenly he said these to me - "Ko ni, pesal bila ada james mesti ada ko?" Hah? Ternganga den! Mamat ni tak tau ke aku dah kawin dengan james? So i simply showed him Little Guapo's picture and told him that we're married for 3 years already and my son is gonna be 2 years old in 3 months time! Nampak gak lar muka dia kemaluan sikit!!! Sukati ko lar labu....

Then i saw Kak Ayu wif Abg Zack and Zhie and Lina and David and Nazrin and a few other people that looked familiar but im not sure what's their name! So we just hang out same table wif Kak Ayu.

That time, Fredo was performing. Hmm... they're cool! 30 mins later, it's break time for them.... and DJ comes on for 15 mins then the Filipino band took the stage next! After singing 1 song, they called James to jam on stage. Selamat akak. Kot tak kena nyanyi gak. Pergh... tak mau den. Malu. Pastu, after a few songs, Farid ajak balik. So off we go home!

During break masa Function kt Sheraton Subang.

Si Pogi and me!

Sunday... nothing happened! Believe it! Just wondering...... =)

Today, Monday.... I just got back from bringing Little Guapo jalan-jalan in Summit Subang. Did foot massage and bought some groceries.

Tonight X'MAS eve. Another busy busy night in Angsa Bar.


and HAPPY BIRTHDAY Ashraf Hazique bin Samsul - 1 year old!

Monday, December 17, 2007

3 years and going stronger.....

16 December 2007 - Our 3 years wedding anniversary.

Our day started early. We did massage for 2 1/2 hours. Then came back home pick up Little Guapo. Went to the park play slide, swing and see-saw for 1 hour, then dress up for dinner. We planned to have dinner at The Curve, but suddenly hujan! So change plans, we head to One Utama and had dinner at Fisherman @Lakeside. It's a seafood restaurant. The food taste good. 5 dishes and 3 of us eating. Little Guapo enjoyed the fried rice wif lemon chicken and spinach soup. I enjoyed everything. There's also buttered prawns and sweet and sour pomfret. Sedap.....

Pogi and me waiting for our dinner!

Little Guapo and Mamaganda

Pogi and Little Guapo

After makan2, we planned to go to Uptown D'Kota. On the way jalan to carpark, i saw P.K. Time (i always wanted to go P.K.Time in Pyramid!). Didn't know there's a branch in OU. And they're having discounts and discounts. Pogi knows that i've always wanted a GUESS watch, so he told me to choose. But then i saw BONIA watches. It looks nice and the salesgirl told me that Bonia watches susah nk scratch sebab it uses sapphire glass. But i still want Guess and the salesgirl convincing me that i need a change. Saying (which is true) many people wear Guess watch! Hmm... i guess i need to give my Swatch watch a rest for a while sebab dah byk scratches. So in the end, after checking Tissot and Longines, i chose BONIA. And voila... after using it, actually it really look nice.

The Bonia watch!

After buying the watch, we quickly head to Uptown D'Kota. There, we jalan2 and i bought a leather belt RM35. Mahal gak tapi i like!

After jalan2, we head home and sleep.... kroh kroh kroh.

Tuesday, December 4, 2007


Hahaha.... i sent out a last minute invitation last week Monday to all my skool frens for my birthday party on Friday night... i know it's last minute so i didn't expect much! I didn't even plan to do the party but Abg Idris insist that he wanna make a party for me! So as expected, by thursday only 3 people replied that they can't make it, and the rest HAMPEH! Yop got bowling tournament, Linda saying bz, Thina not coming. But still i booked a table for 10 pax. I also invited Mama & Nabil to celebrate wit me. I ordered a tray of fried singapore style meehoon. Abg Idris sponsored the cake, 4 tequila shots & a pitcher of Coke!

32 years old
1 December 2007

L-R : Sim, Bob, Me, Abg Idris (Angsa Bar Manager) & Mr. Tang

Backdrop made by Angsa Bar for me!!!

At the same time that night, Abg Idris called all the semi-finalists for the Dangdut Karaoke Singing Contest to sing & select their number to perform on their semi-finals! Alamak.... my party suddenly turned out to be a dangdut party. But if i can't beat em, join em! What else should i do?
Ni berdangdut time... Marissa (1 of the semi-finalists) singing GOYANG BALI.... apalagi... goyang je lar.... tu sebelah tu Santana.

Ini lah 3 kerat kawan-kawan aku yg datang. Thanks Marissa & ate Diana!! I love you guys! Tu yg sebelah kiri tu kakak aku lar... Mama.

The best part was at 12midnight, Abg Idris & Pogi announced my birthday and called me to cut the cake and the cake comes with 4 tequila shots. Mama didn't expect during cutting cake that i'm gonna call her too..... I called Marissa & Ate Diana to join me so that i can escape drinking all the Tequila!!! Padan muka korang! Wahahaha.....

Thanks to Sim, Bobby Gunjai & Zul for coming that night!

Overall... i did enjoy the night! Was a little bit tipsy that night! Luckily Mama & Nabil gave us a ride home!

Pogi - thanks for everything! Love you!


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